Why my friend is more cool? Why my mother is not changing or that my father is more loving? I get the effort to know them as they try to identify me. I associating and accepting what others , are showing their support to me.
How do you feel when someone is just negatively criticised you or taking you for granted? Most of us feel unhappy and try by all means necessary to avoid those people who show that they do not love us or not appreciate whatever good we do in life, or try to prove why they regard us wrong.
Lets now swift to the situation where you live together with someone who appreciates you or emulate your efforts above all believe in you and enjoys being with you and tells you so! There is high inspiration and feelings of self confidence when we are associate with those people who show us that they care and accept us as we are. The people who are more considerate to us empower us to show them our love as we respect their efforts and contributions to us.
However when they show us that they dislike us ,then we tend not to respect them and it is very difficult for them to respect us and like us.
It is good to make your conscience better and have good habit of making good to other people even if they are showing tendecies of your worst part of themselves.We build our self-worth because there are some people who treat us as we benefit to make our society more conducive for interaction.
For you to examine your interaction skills go through this question and verify where really you are going wrong:
♥Do you care and co-operate with your family members, friends and those other people in your community?
♥Do you appreatiate what other people do your neighbours ,work mates and the other people in community?
♥Do you talk of others as if you are pleasing them when around, instead they are far away?
♥Do you have the good attitudes and values which make up morals for improving relationships?
If you consider the questions above,it is now easier for you to work on your relationships through following simple ways to improve your relationships with other people.
Make it powerful to ensure that your presence is not by accident or mistake.This way is simple by improving your talking skills.When speaking with any person, make everyone with you special and keep good eye contact. whilst using their names more often. In a conversation situation with someone talking to by name he/she feels honoured and appreciative. When talking back to us he/she feels comfortable.
Listen to whatever they say and give them undivided attention. There is big different between listening and hearing.When hearing you do not take it serious to be in the situation of the person you are talking to.Unlike when you are listening you think carefully about what your partner is saying and responding by using the appropriate non-verbal gestures.
Be someone who is able to encourage others to be what they suppose to be.Don't shy to show other people your good views.Catch other people who are doing something right. In this situation you go out of your way to compliment others.The full potential realised only when shortcomings nad immaturity included. The powerful words you should always say:"I admire how you help others." or "You are a real go-getter and I appreciate your caring for other people."
Inaadition ,be careful to avoid this just to be your common comments which may not in every situation and not to false flattery.Always be sencere of whatever you say.When was you last time to comment some for the good thing done or is the area you should work on?
Some people has the problem of hiding their discomforts.Never shy of expressing what upset you.By doing this you begin to help others to understand yourself very well.This is the good way of restoring your relationships.When communication upsets never be it the purpose of blaming,attacking ,being right or changing someone.In this situation you are creating more harm than good.It is your responsibility to try all your odds to ensure that other people feel loved,accepted,encouraged and recommended positively in the process. Be focused on your feelings ,rather than other people's action.Believe in yourself and accept that other people are better than you or that if someone say you done me wrong and forgive me.Let it go of the hurt and make your commitments direct to make relationship work again.Remember sometimes we disagree to agree.Then make up to your conscience to realise the day you were totally honest and open about how you felt? Is this area you need to improve.
Inconclusion you can't be alone in the island and never need other people to share with you love.Love is not love until you give it away.Love teaches us about life's importance,and that importances is how we make relationships.Relationships make us share whatever we have with those in needy thus making life worthwhile.
