Due to the manace of HIV& AIDS many families especially in developing countries are left with no option only to adopt an extended families.
Extended family is a type of a family which includes the breadwinner/winners,grandparents ,aunts as well as other children from other parents living under the same roof.Nuclea family comprises of mother ,father and their children.
Advantages of an Extended Family:
♦It promotes unity amongst family members and hences socialisation is enhenced.
♦ Family help each other in times of crisis.
♦Work is shared among family members however the work has to be organised.
♦Ideas are shared.
♦Cultural heritage is kept alive in the family.
♦Children are taught general respect for adults.
Disadvantages of an Extended Family:
♦More conflicts are likely to occur due to large number of people.
♦The family budget is strained.
♦There is no personal security.
♦There can be high spread of diseases.
Advantages of a Nuclea Family:
♦The budget can be controlled and usually there are enough resources for the family if the family has been propery planned.
♦Less conflicts in the family.
♦Discipline and order are easy to maintain.
♦There is personal security in terms of ownership of equipment finance and policies.
♦Due to small number of ther family ,it is easier to maintain the environment.
Disadvantages of Nuclea Family:
♦There is limited socialisation .
♦Generally no respect for results of adults.
♦It discourages the preservation of cultural heritage and there is a tendency of following other cultures than normal in your community.
♦Limited support in times of need.
♦The family can be easily misled by neighbours.
Conflicts in the families almost every family conflicts arise ,why conflicts arise is not a problem? But how to manage every conflict is a challenge which need to be solved to continue with life on as a family.
Conflicts are verbal disagreements which can end up in fight,hatred or even death in families.
Causes of conflicts:
•financial disagreement ,unfaithfulness,
•misuse of gender equity ,
•grapevine communication(gossip)
•witch hunting
•envy,different cultural backgrounds,
•barreness and importence ,deaths in families,illness or children misbehaviours.
financial disagreements
Money is the major conflicting factor in most homes.This is because incomes may be short to meet family needs and wants.Poor use of income to priortise family's most needs before wants and luxuries.However remember it money's character of be lack,therefore never confused by short of money,but only to budget and stick it .Be transparence and discuss with your partner or other members of family to ensure your family financial needs are priortised and every member's views is included.Ensure that main basic requirements are provided for in the family.Get financial advice from honest and reliable friends or seek adivice of experts in your community.
Unfaithfulness is not acceptable, the most important thing you must have in your life is to be trusted.Trustworthness never earned like money ,but you have to work for it to be faithful,honest and reliable.You should be faithful in your family.Couples when involved in the situations of not be faithful to one another .Learn to sit down and reconcile each other.If you find yourself being labelled unfaithful learn to forgive yourself and your partner.Then work to accept your weaknesses.When your unfaithfulness is prolonged and you failed to control it within your family ,get counselling from ,church,family counsellor,or elders of your extended family.
Misuse of Gender Equity.These days women are advocating for being recognised in the communities as have the specific rights to be respected like men.Men should learn to give women their rights they are compaigning for,however never be succumbed to the mob psychology,examine your family and learn to live with your partner through accepting his/her characteristics and patiently work to accept you as you are.Get proper education about the human rights so as to apply them where applicable.
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